The Parenting Position that Avoids Narcissism and Grows Healthy Children
In my six-part blog series, we’ve looked at a lot of the ways well-meaning parents can go wrong. But how do you do it right? Do you have to read every parenting book? Spend twenty-four hours a day with your child? Co-sleep? Not co-sleep? What’s the secret!?
Indulgent/Permissive Parent Position
The indulgent/permissive parent position is most typically identified by the parent’s outright and pervasive over-indulgence. The child is provided with most everything she wants and, in some cases, with everything money can buy. She is seen as “special,” prettier than other children, more likable than other children, more popular than other children, or put simply, just better all around.
The Foundation of the Five Parenting “Positions”
No one goes into parenthood thinking, “I’d really like to raise a narcissist.” Unfortunately, narcissism in children is on the rise, and so are parenting styles that support narcissism. Since we are bombarded every day with conflicting advice about how to raise a child, it’s no wonder people sometimes pick a parenting path that goes awry.
Seven Books Every Parent Should Read and Why
Every bookstore has a whole section dedicated to parenting books. Why? Child development is on every parent’s mind. It’s also more complicated than a lot of people realize.
Are You a Helicopter Parent?
Regardless of its title or descriptor, over-involved parenting is not a benefit developmentally—at any stage of child rearing.
The Narcissist’s ‘Not Really an Apology’ Apology
Have you ever had someone use words that seemed like an apology, but somehow you didn't feel better? Nothing felt resolved. Understanding seemed lacking. But you couldn't put your finger on what was missing or why you didn't feel the typical sense of relief?
The Sizes and Shapes of Narcissism
Narcissists come in all sizes and shapes—or so it seems. Believe it or not, but if narcissists, the more nerdy, perfectionistic valedictorian has the same psychological structure as the popular football captain who can be controlling, manipulative, and prone to bullying others.
Words That Matter
In the hustle and bustle of our fast-paced world, it’s easy to lose sight of the positive, life-changing impact we can have on one another. Seemingly small gestures—a few words in a brief exchange—can have a significant impact.
Helping Preschoolers Learn to Take Responsibility
Learning to take responsibility is not a skill that is mastered overnight. You can help your child develop this skill by taking the steps outlined in this blog.
Helping Preschoolers Learn to Share and Take Turns
Learning to get along with others is an important developmental task that begins in the preschool and early school years. This social skill, which is essential in the child's later life as worker, spouse, friend, or parent, is also necessary for success in school.
Helping Preschoolers Learn to Put Feelings into Words
Let’s tackle a subject near and dear to the hearts of parents of young children everywhere: Why in the world is my child screaming in the cereal aisle at Publix?